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CIT 1
What are your strongest talents and handicaps as you embark on Coaching Certification?
I can abstract big ideas very quickly
I am introspective
I learn quickly
I am creative (though I need to trust the proven methods)
I like having goals
I naturally fence sit, and play devils advocate.
I, too, am transforming
How are you most likely to support and sabotage your learning while in this program?
I procrastinate
I read slowly
I am shy/reserved about my skills as a coach
I am introspective though sometimes I just need to act
I like learning tools as a way of making progress (Squarespace, AgileZen, etc)
Too many new things going on at once (BIL, EE, Relations, Coaching, Cars, transformation)
You will be required to engage in work with a professional coach once this program begins. What three potential areas/issues in your life would you pursue with a coach?
Deciding if I want to be married or not?
Learning to be comfortable with conflict and interrupting
Increase the quality of my relationship with my kids
Financial planning
Coaching Clinic #1 - Pam McLean
Mike Manoske - Wharton Student 33 yr old, Director of Internet Security. 1st year executive MBA, Staff of 15...Bored. Getting interested in education. Looking for something inspirational. wants to become a venture capitalist. Son (VC) is going to have coffee with him. Stuck: How to help him walk through the other options that are available to him. What are you noticing about you? I'm really enjoying this, though I'm constantly telling myself, "don't do this".
Boundaries: the system includes self as coach, client and the relationship the results. What is it that seduces me into the clients system? Mike is realizing that he needs to manage himself. What does the client want to change? Client wants to change his career path. Client tells you that he is bored. What will he have to shift and change in himself in order to get there (VC)? Dont get seduced into talking about the job. When you;ve made a big shift like this, before, what has worked for you? We need to understand how this guy operates in the world. Does he make decisions quickly? It seems he has changed his method of exploration. He is enjoying the process that Wharton is exposing him to. "I don't quite know what the next thing I want to do, but I need to change what I'm doing." One tool that can be helpful. Scenario development or mindmapping. What are the possible areas that he wants to explore? What does he need to investigate in order to make those possible areas more possible.
Mike Barlow - Individual went through one of our leadership programs. Learned that his communcation methods require development. Issue: Work through the method of communication t with another employee that is not healthy. Kept going back to the other person. We really cannot change someone that's not here. It's not my fault. Did I jump out of this too soon?
If he is going to get coaching, he's going to need to go down this road. How was the relationship setup? I think he's motivated. I think he understands what coaching is. I think he's fearful that the scores from his leadership program have really hurt his chances to make career progress. and you're both clear that this information is not going to be used against him? yes. How long was he in the other business, and how toxic was it? Very Toxic! Sounds like he is in the duldrums! Yes, even his personal life is in the duldrums. This gives us a broader lens on this guy. Trust does not happen overnight. What is the work and overall goal of this coaching? Reframe - this could be a fresh start. How does he want to show up as a leader in this new environment, where trust is key?
Respect the past and the comments from the client, but bring him to the present. Need to make it safe for him. We need to be strong in order not to enter his system.
Adrianno - Former Employee at Goldman. Works for largest Brazilian bank. She's totally burned out. I never wanted to be in this business. But my qualifications worked. after 2-3 years I felt handcuffed. I was making 2-3x what my peers were making. I can't even go to work anymore. I can't read the research I'm supposed to read. Why did you burn out now? large organization vs working with small teams. 40,000 employees and she feels like a number. What are the obstacles? It was the money. I can't afford the rosk of taking a trnsition. then her personal life opened up. Parents are fighting, has t take care of her brother...disclosed her sexual orientation, afraid that she won't have someone to take care of her in her old age. We built a lot of rapport.
CIT 2
Client Stance - Aug 6th Powerpoint
How we interpret our world
Hargrove - Part of our work as coach, helping people become aware of the dis-empowering interpretations and un-examined assumptions that lead us to live our lives as we do. we all have stories that we live in. Narrative therapy - we live inside a series of narratives. come from our early life experiences. some times they suite us, other times not.
Awareness that grows the longer we're coaching. Slowly start to notice this in our clients, but first we must notice it within ourselves. What are you starting to notice? Elise: Clients assumptions about money, business decisions based upon interpretations of customers willingness to spend money. Mike B: Clients telling stories about what other people are thinking. client who did not get a promotion and get incomplete information about the cause. end up making up narratives to make sense of it. Diane: Introverted client that is friendly with her friends, but cold with new acquaintances. She plays it close to the vest until she fails comfortable. Perhaps grew up in a way that reinforced a need to do this.
Phil Jackson: Great track record as the Lakers coach. Often viewed as cold and arrogant. Until you got to know him, this is how you experienced him. TV interviews purposefully put him into situations that began to humanize him.
Create a metaphor with each of your clients. Not with your client, but as you interpret your client. Might enable you to see the patterns that are showing up. Jude: Kind heart - says yes to whatever anyone else needs. Ends up feeling bad about herself. How is this helpful to you Jude? Helps me key in on the boundaries that she sets, what she says yes to, who she says yes to? Why? Margaret: client is always helping other people. works with people that are less fortunate than her. metaphor - raising the bar. Does it fit? By giving it a name, we are better able to recognize it when it shows up. What is the cost of maintaining this narrative? These are not easy habits to break, but the power comes from understanding the cost of keeping them. Mike B: Clipped Wings - client has a great deal of talent and has the confidence of others...only lacks self-confidence. What's the aspirational place that we want to move into? Flying with my full wingspan. What would this do for your client? She'd be seen as more effective and the business woulds benefit. What might bea good inner practice? Logging her actions and feelings that result in her feeling clipped, or in flying.
Somewhere in the second column of the methodology, we begin to discover what some of these narratives are. Most of these clients, as do we, have difficulty in being able to articulate the narratives. The notion of structure and interpretation are very important.
Flaherty - has been using the eneagram. as instruments go, that it is probably an instrument that gets low ratings on validity, but it is a very interesting instrument. very intuitive. Perhaps more detailed than MBTI. We all have our way of operating, independent of the instrument. How do we help the client get on the balcony? to see their life through anew lens?
Language is so important in revealing how we interpret the world. ie Apologetic; declarations only; hesitant; most of us are not aware of how we interpret language. "a lot of bad luck" - client was not aware of how many times he said this. We had fun and used humor to deal with it.
people who see other people as the problem: They cannot see themselves as the cause
Tentatively: may not be aware of the lilt that may be the fundamental hindrance to career progression.
Immediacy: Noticing and sharing an observation in the moment. How does the observation connect to our coaching work?
Stakeholder interviews: as a means of creating immediacy - it may reveal the same theme. creates urgency to make adjustments.
Coaching is so heavily front loaded: Where is our best focus? How do we get from where we are to where you want to be? If the only thing I do, is buy into thew way you see see it, I'm going to have limited information and my client is going to have limited information. Hence the value of those stakeholder interviews.
Jason: Client has a definition of herself; Doer vs thinker. revealed the history of her actions that demonstrated this as "not true". There are so many layers to that. I wonder if we had two columns: Doer and Thinker. How might she populate this? Often times, people most comfortable "in the do" are comfortable responding and reacting. This reveals a level of passivity. Play with this at several levels. How do I move to thinking more strategically? How do we break this down? How do I create my own priorities?
Helping the client break down their activities.
Catherine Robinson-Walker: It's the choice that matters. It's the consciousness that matters.
1) I am right: When we have a lot of expertise.
2) Storytelling:
3) Checking out:
4) Being distracted:
5) Saying No, and being a state of NO.